The Art of Blissipline

I’m so in love with this new word I’ve come across (BLISSIPLINE) which describe what I have been trying to do daily for years to maintain a sense of wonder/radical amazement in my life; this is the true refuge of my soul, and I adore having a term for it.

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It came to me via Rob Breszny, the author of one of my favorite books: Pronoia is the Antidote to Paranoia: How the Whole World Is Conspiring to Shower You with Blessings.

 

I couldn’t wait to share it with with you! Here’s the excerpt.

“My friend Rana Satori Stewart coined some new words that happen to be perfect for you to begin using and embodying.

 

Blissipline is the commitment to experiencing a little or a lot of bliss every day; the practice of expanding one’s capacity for bliss and being open to receive it in any moment.

 

“A ‘blissiplinarian’ is ‘someone who enforces pleasure and invites opportunities for more pleasure,’ while a ‘blissciple’ is a person who aspires to master the art of blissipline.”

-Rob Breszny

Isn’t it perfect?

May we choose this type of discipline to expand our daily bliss.

7 Tips for Writing an Authentic “About Me” Page

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Recently, I sat down with a client, over tea in my home office, to work on her “About Me” page. She had been paralyzed for weeks trying to write something but had been unable to produce more than a couple of sentences. I offered to help her.

 

It wasn’t only this client; this happens all. the. time. Crafting a compelling “about me” page shouldn’t be so hard, but it is. It is no wonder big companies employ copywriters and brand strategists to help them articulate the essence of who they are, what they do, and why they do what they do.

 

While most of us don’t have that luxury of hiring strategists and consultants, the truth is: an “About Me” page needs our loving and careful attention, because it is one of the most visited pages on every website.

 

Why do we have such a hard time describing ourselves? Shouldn’t that be the easiest thing to write about?

 

One reason we struggle is a deep rooted fear that others won’t like us.

 

So we compromise.

 

We compromise who we truly are for a “more professional” version of ourselves, a version that is “more appropriate” to society or to the business world (like me wearing boring business suits and pantyhose when I love bright-color dresses, ruffled skirts, and dainty lace.)

We compromise because we don’t believe in the power of our uniqueness and the gifts we bring to the world.

 

As you craft your “About Me” page, above all, please remember this: Do not compromise who you are. Do not neglect the WHOLE of who you are.

 

If I have learned anything from being in business is this:

there’s nothing more exhausting to our bodies (and depressing to our souls) than editing who we are to achieve “success” and adjusting who we are to be more attractive to certain clients.

 

The beauty and the magic of the work I aspire to help you with, is that by being your true self, by being authentic and vulnerable, your tribe will be able to find you. After all, then and only then, will like minded souls feel that resonance that makes them choose you. I have created this guide to help my clients craft their “About Me” page, authentically. I hope you, too, find it helpful.

1. Use the first-person tense:

Sweetie, talk to us in the first-person. When I land on your site, I want to hear from YOU! The third person approach is outdated and doesn’t feel genuine. Every knows you probably wrote it yourself.

“Mariela was born in Cuba, has an MFA in Writing and Literature from Bennington College in Vermont.” OK. That’s the third person. And it’s boring. Don’t do that. Pretty please.

 

2. It’s not all about you:

OK. It is the “About Me” page after all, but it’s not all about you. What I mean is that the purpose of this page is to make a connection with the potential client or reader who lands on that page. Without compromising who you are, think about who they are and what they need from you. Write thoughtfully – thinking of your story and the parts that will appeal to your target audience.

People search online looking for a service or product like yours. They have a particular need, and your services or product can be like a balm to soothe that issue. Remember that when writing your “About Me” page.

 

3. Tune in (exercise):

Before writing, I always like to sit on my chair, in front of the computer and put my right hand on my chest. I take a minute to breathe and center myself. Often, I massage the area over my heart, in a circling motion. I do that about twenty times to connect with Source and with my true self. Then I ask questions such as: “Why am I writing this?” or “How can this blog post be of utmost service to my visitors?”

For writing your bio, ask yourself questions such as: “Who am I?” “Who do I serve?” “What do they need from me?”

 

4. Use your imagination:

To write authentically, I like to imagine someone sitting right in front of me – someone who is in desperate need of my help. Whole-heartly and with deep compassion, I write to that person, telling her how I can help her.

If you only had three minutes of that person’s time, what would you say to them about who you are or what’s important to you?

 

5. Use your voice:

English is my second language, and so I have many quirks when I speak and write. They bother me to the point that I don’t write as much as I would like, thus keeping myself from fully sharing my truth and from helping others. My quirks are part of who I am; they give a particular flavor to the way I speak. I must accept and love them, like we all should do to any of our (perceived) flaws.

Also, when I talk to women in my circle, I address them as: sweetie, lovely, or darling… So that’s the language I use here in my website. I used to think that it wasn’t professional to do so, but it’s really authentic to me. And I gotta be me. And you gotta be you.

Some women use curse words on their site; I’ve heard them say that it is important to them to be themselves that way. I respect that even though I rarely use curse words. Others use sarcasm heavily (again, not me) but I so appreciate their voices and the courage to be themselves…

So, darling, yes, write the way you talk. It gives people a really good sense of who you truly are.

 

6. Use an amazing picture of yourself:

You know people don’t read much these days, so a good, honest picture of yourself can do almost as much for you as your well-written bio. I actually became a photographer after being a web designer and seeing the need my clients had for a good photo for their “About Me” page. An outdated, dark, and grainy picture wasn’t going to cut it, so I invested on a good Nikon camera and started taking headshots that captured the person authentically. I call them Soul Portraits.

 

7. Take the pressure off:

The pressure is what traps us sometimes. Relax. You can always change the page later. That’s the beauty of electronic communication (versus) print. Really, be intentional but don’t sweat it too much.

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In summary, we spend most of our lives camouflaging, editing who we are, accommodating our truth, because of the expectations of others, or to avoid conflict. But we must realize that not being who we really are is more dangerous to our well-being and our success than being liked or making others a little uncomfortable.

 

May we learn to make a daily practice of this, on our website, on social media, face-to-face.

 

May we choose to speak our truth and be our true true selves.

Interview with Greensboro Daily Photo

Feeling very humble and grateful for this interview with Janis Antonek, with Greensboro Daily Photo.

See below:


 

When you are with Mariela Pérez-Simons, she exudes happiness, joy, and love- of nature, humanity, and life! Mariela will lead you to believe that life is total bliss and problem free. However, life has not always been easy for Mariela. She came to Greensboro in 1995 as a political refugee from Cuba. Her family was the first to be sponsored as political refugees by Lutheran Family Services from Cuba to Greensboro. The departure from Cuba was harrowing. Her family sold everything to have the cash to take the flight from Cuba to Miami. They sneaked through the streets of Havana to the airport in the night as many Cubans were being detained and their exits denied. Had this happened, Mariela’s family would have been left with literally nothing. Fortunately, they arrived in Miami, incident free. The Miami portion of the journey was no problem as so many people in Florida speak Spanish. However, for the connecting flight to Greensboro, they were told nobody spoke Spanish and were given a New York City phone number to call if they arrived in Greensboro with nobody to translate. They were terrified that they would be alone and had they no idea how to make a phone call in the United States (especially in the pre-cell phone era). They were especially worried because they couldn’t even find Greensboro on the map. They anticipated having to sleep in the streets and were a bundle of nerves. To their great joy, they were greeted at the Greensboro airport with a party of 50 people holding signs and welcoming them with open arms. That was their introduction to Greensboro. Because of the great people in our community, they have never left.

While many people tried to convince Mariela to relocate to Florida, she says that the palm trees don’t speak to her the way Greensboro’s trees do. She loves the nature here and stays outdoors as much as possible. She is constantly walking the nature trails and greenways and, 20 years later, continues to find new trails. Her business, “Live Your Bliss,”, incorporate all of her talents, from photography to public speaking to freelance writing to bringing people together to connect in a deep way. The human connection  is so important to Mariela and she is introducing her 9-year-old daughter to this concept. She and her daughter have a project where they collect smiles from people. They try to get strangers to smile and when they to, they draw a small picture to add to their wall of smiles (see photo below). The happiness of others brings happiness to her. We are so lucky to have Mariela in our community. Today is ABC Wednesday and “M”  is for Mariela.

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For the other people in this A-Z Local People series, see, here.

http://www.greensborodailyphoto.com/2015/10/m-is-for-mariela.html

A Sacred Practice – Cultivating Presence

My dear:

Today marks the seventh consecutive day where I’ve been able to sustain the practice of presence; something I’ve tried for years and years with poor results. You know how it is. I would practice here and there, but never consistently for a long period of time.

And I can sincerely tell you that this has been the best week of my life, spiritually-speaking.

Connection, that’s what I believe we are all seeking. And that’s exactly what this practice has brought me: a constant connection with myself and the divine, with the sweetness of the present moment, with the task at hand.

What exactly have I done?  You are probably wondering.

Well, since I’m not one to sit down to meditate for a long period of time, I’ve developed this very personal practice to help me feel centered and present. It only takes a couple of minutes.

Here are the instructions:

  • presence-practiceSeveral times per hour, stop what you are doing, close your eyes, and call yourself back into your body
  • Put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach
  • Breathe deeply; a few times
  • Connect with spirit, if you can
  • Locate the joy, the love inside your body
  • Now smile from that place. A big smile
  • Try to maintain that connection, that soft feeling of love
  • Keep breathing
  • Keep smiling
  • Repeat as often as you can throughout the day

 

 

 

 

 

Gratitude

Ages ago, living in Cuba, during the 90+degree humid nights of summer, I used to sit by my front door seeking a bit of relief from the heat (I could see the dust and heat waves on the road, when a car drove by). Sitting there, sweat dripping down my back and from my forehead, I would dream of a pool.

I would imagine the way the refreshing water would feel on my body, of swimming freely the length of a pool…It dawned on me tonight, after many nights enjoying this pool in my neighborhood, how fortunate I am, how the dream came true. And how I don’t appreciate it enough. Every day, I should be like “OH MY GODDESS! I’M SO FREAKING LUCKY. I CAN’T BELIEVE THIS!” But no, I kinda take for granted that i can walk to this Jr Olympics pool, from my house, and have the entire pool to myself, ALMOST EVERY NIGHT.

And then I think about all the other things I used to DREAM OF fervently, that now I also kinda take for granted, like being in this country, being married to this guy Dean​, having this family, this house, this mac I’m typing on, this couch I’m sitting on… DAMN! I’m so freaking lucky! And so are you, I’m certain!